“Still I had self esteem issues because I felt guys love slim girls.” Amatari Blessing Ghomorai Williams on her ordeal with Anorexia Nervosa. — May 25, 2018

“Still I had self esteem issues because I felt guys love slim girls.” Amatari Blessing Ghomorai Williams on her ordeal with Anorexia Nervosa.

Amatari Blessing Ghomorai Williams is a beautiful 23 year old lady. She is in her final year in the University of Benin, Nigeria, Africa, in the department of Foreign Languages, majoring in French Language. She is a godly lady, beautiful on the inside and outside. Read on as she shares her experience on Anorexia Nervosa with us on today’s blog. So grab a coffee 🍡and let’s enjoy the interview.

Can you tell us a bit about Anorexia Nervosa

It’s a disease of the mind like I always call it. It’s the fear of being fat. Therefore avoiding meals and other healthy things.

Please tell us a bit of your experience and how it started.

Anorexia started when I was in my last year in secondary school, a few days after I was diagnosed with Asthma. My friends back then and a teacher told me I was getting fat. I was so scared, I thought the fat would block my lungs and I would die. I stopped eating well and fed only on snacks like Gala and Lacasera. Even when I was feeling this biting pain in my belly, I still wouldn’t eat. I was so selective of my meals. I also wanted to be fine and sexy. My sugar consumption was so much yet I had this believe that I would never be fat. I wanted to blend in too.

Did you experience peer pressure from your female friends?

Yes I did. They were slim and beautiful and had more boys around them. I felt like the old fashioned one.

How did you overcome Anorexia?

I got into the University and eating was not an option because of classes. I then had a chronic ulcer that made me weak and unable to walk. Nobody told me to eat before I started eating to fill my stomach. Still, I had self esteem issues because I felt guys love slim girls. Eventually I fell in love with myself and Christ made it easier.

Do you now have many guys around you? 😁

Not really but I don’t mind anymore. It got me to understand that I don’t need a man to define me.

Can you tell us what you weighed then and now?

I weighed 47kg back then. Now I weigh 64kg.

Are you comfortable with your present weight?

Well, with the weight thing i’m trying to keep fit so I don’t grow too big. I look better and I love it. I just want to be fit.

What’s your advice to every one going through something similar?

My advice to them is simple, live life without bothering about your shadow. It’s better to keep fit and eat healthy. Most importantly, love yourself and be happy with who God has made you to be.

Wow!!! Beautiful interview with our dear Amatari. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

Before we close today’s chapter on Anorexia Nervosa, let’s take a step further into what anorexia nervosa is.

Anorexia nervosa, often referred to simply as anorexia, is an eating disorder characterized by low weight, fear of gaining weight, and a strong desire to be thin, resulting in food restriction. Many people with anorexia see themselves as overweight even though they are in fact underweight. If asked they usually deny they have a problem with low weight. Often they weigh themselves frequently, eat only small amounts, and only eat certain foods. Some will exercise excessively, force themselves to vomit, or use laxatives to produce weight loss.

Complications may include osteoporosis, infertility and heart damage, among others. Women will often stop having menstrual periods.

The cause is unknown. Usual onset is between teens years to young adulthood. Anorexia often begins following a major life-change or stress-inducing event. it occurs more commonly among those involved in activities that value thinness such as high-level athletics, modelling, and dancing.

The diagnosis requires a significantly low weight. The severity of disease is based on body mass index (BMI) in adults with mild disease having a BMI of greater than 17, moderate a BMI of 16 to 17, severe a BMI of 15 to 16, and extreme a BMI less than 15.

In 2013 it directly resulted in about 600 deaths globally, up from 400 deaths in 1990. Eating disorders also increases a person’s risk of death from a wide range of other causes, including suicide. (Reference: Smink, FR; van Hoeken, D; Hoek, HW (August 2012). “Epidemiology of eating disorders: incidence, prevalence and mortality rates”. Current psychiatry reports).

Treatment of anorexia involves restoring a healthy weight, treating the underlying psychological problems, and addressing behaviors that promote the problem. While medications do not help with weight gain, they may be used to help with associated anxiety or depression.

My dear reader, I hope this has inspired you just as it has inspired me.

Kindly share any lesson learnt from this in the comment section below πŸ‘‡. Mine will be there too. Thank you for reading.

I love you. 😘

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Gist time 😁 — May 14, 2018

Gist time 😁

Hello lovelies, who missed me? It’s good to be back. I have gist for you but before then, let me encourage you just as I’ve been encouraged.

I woke up very early this morning after a dream. I was encouraged in the dream to use what I have right now to influence life no matter how little instead of waiting till I have all I need. There might be so many people who have exactly what they need to influence life or do I say,to live a life of purpose but you don’t have to wait till you get it all. It’s never a crime to start small. God will surely provide everything you need along the way.

Isn’t it interesting to live your life according to God’s plan for you? Jeremiah 1:5.

Today’ topic isn’t on purpose so I’ll stop right here but remember you’ve got lives attached to you, waiting for you to begin to live out your purpose.

It’s gist time πŸ˜πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜‰. Two great people I know got married.

Firstly,πŸ‘‡

Pastor Daniel Olawande of Rccg Living Seed Parish, fondly called PDaniel is married. Look at how his wife is fine, doesn’t he deserve some accolades? πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ™Œ

Secondly,

Atinuke Junaid, founder of 3113, a ready-to-wear fashion outfit for women is married😁😁😁😁😘.

The question now is, what is my relationship with this people? Are they family or close friends? My humble answer is NO 😏😩 but here’s what’s exciting about this.

I have been a social media follower of them for a good while now and I can say that they are people living out their purpose despite unfulfilled heart desires. PDaniel had high hopes about getting married and boom, in less than a year of meeting his wife, he gets married.

Atinuke Junaid now Atinuke Dami-Yakubu is a lady who right from a young age has had her share of life. She has shared her story on social media and it has been encouraging. Atinuke in her younger years had attempted suicide more than once but here she is today, rejoicing and we rejoice with her. Your day of rejoicing shall also come in Jesus name.Getting married at such a young age of 24 to an handsome young man is something worth celebrating. Come on, put your hands together. πŸ‘πŸ™Œ

This is to encourage you that no matter how life circumstances have weighed you down and it seems like it’s taking forever to get back on your feet, no matter how long it seems you’ve been waiting for something in particular and haven’t gotten it, or no matter how many stones life has thrown at you, still hold on to faith, keep trusting God, keep fighting, keep holding your head up. Very soon, life will surprise you with it’s beauty again.

Congratulations to PDaniel and wife, Mrs Nifemi Daniel Olawande and congratulations to Mrs Atinuke Dami-Yakubu and husband, Mr. Damilola Yakubu. Thanks for inspiring us.

I hope you’ll begin to influence life in any little way you can no matter what life has thrown at you or hasn’t given you yet.

I’ll leave you with this: I hear people say: “Oh, if I were only rich, I would do great things to help people.” But we all can be rich in love and generosity. Moreover, if we give with care, if we find out the exact wants of those who need our help most, we are giving our own loving interest and concern, which is worth more than all the money in the world.”-Albert Schweitzer.

Thank you for reading. I love you. 😍

Awakening her love πŸ˜ — December 5, 2017

Awakening her love πŸ˜

Happy New Month Guys πŸ˜πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

So today I want to talk to “those” great guys who awaken the love of ladies knowing fully well they are not ready for a relationship. 

Oh you are asking me how guys awaken a lady’s love? Just chill let me tell you.

Firstly they call ladies sweet names, tell them how beautiful they look and all. You need to realize this that ladies are emotional beings and are moved by what they hear. You know you aren’t ready to love this lady, so why make her think you love her? Truth be told, a lady can easily fall for a guy and that’s where the problem starts.

Secondly, they are always calling and chatting with this lady. Infact some will include her in their life plan making the lady feel she’s special enough to be a part of his future plans. 

Thirdly, they spend on the lady. It’s okay if you are generous but don’t overdo it. You take her shopping, buy top up for her,etc yet you don’t love her..hmm. πŸ‘

Fourthly, you spend time with her…always with her. Guys you really need to chill. Until you are ready to have something deeper with this lady, don’t awaken her love. The list goes on but I’ll stop here for now.

Ladies, guard your heart πŸ’“ too. Stop falling in and out of love. Set some boundaries and enjoy your life. You’re not a machine to be suffering from a break up everytime. 

Once again guys, don’t awaken her love if you have no intention of loving her. That’s all for today guys. Please like, comment, share and ….take care 😘. Bye

Rightly positioned — December 1, 2017

Rightly positioned

Hi guys! Happy new month. 

You saw the topic right? It says “Rightly Positioned” and that’s what I’ll be digging into today. So grab your sharwarma, juice, pen, book……and let’s get started…yipee!

I was studying my Bible during one of my quiet time this week when the Lord took my focus to the book of Genesis chapter 24:1-65. Let me gist you the story in a more fun way.

There was this man who heard from the Lord about where his son would marry from. Being old in age already, he decided it was time to get his son a wife. His son’s wife was meant to be from his father’s house where the Lord told him to leave. He called his oldest servant and told him to sware that he was going to go to that particular town and get his son a wife and his servant did hence he left for the town.

On getting there, he prayed to God about who the lady is. His prayer went like this:

12 β€œO Lord, God of my master, Abraham,” he prayed. β€œPlease give me success today, and show unfailing love to my master, Abraham. 13 See, I am standing here beside this spring, and the young women of the town are coming out to draw water. 14 This is my request. I will ask one of them, β€˜Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, β€˜Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’—let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.”

Before he was done praying, a beautiful damsel, old enough to be married by the name Rebekah showed up with a water jug on her shoulder. He met with her, asked for some water for him and his camels and she did just as he had prayed. Inother to be sure she was the one again, he followed her home and requested she came along with him to meet Isaac and she did. Come to think of it, that can’t happen in this age o…where there’s a lot of kidnapping activities going on. Anyway, let’s continue.

What’s the lesson here and how does it match up with the topic of today?

The truth is that both Rebekah and the servant of Abraham were rightly positioned. You can just like me be asking why it was at that particular time Rebekah went to fetch water. 

Truth be told, the servant wouldn’t have been rightly positioned if the Lord hadn’t told Abraham where Isaac’s wife is from. As a man who is ready to go into a relationship leading to marriage, it will be good to ask God where your wife is so you can be rightly positioned. You might be in Canada whereas your wife is in South Africa to sight but an example. So many people are wrongly positioned and that’s why it looks hard for them to find their future spouse. 

As a lady ready for a relationship leading into marriage, it is important to be rightly positioned just as Rebekah was. It could be that you suddenly feel a strong urge to change Church or where you work. It could be that you just feel a strong urge to change city, town or Country. That could just be God positioning you to meet your spouse. 

One prayer point I encourage singles to pray is this and I really hope you pray it right now.

  • Father please rightly position me to find the right person for me.
  • My father, speak to me about where to find her.

Very short but I hope you getthe message. Who says you have to date every single man or woman before finding the right person? Who says you have to go through multiple break ups before finding the right man or woman? God can really rightly position you if you ask Him to. 

So guys let’s do a little reminder of the story. Please give your response in the comment section below.

Till next time guys. Please do like, comment, share and follow my blog site. I loooooooove you guys. Guess whose birth month this is? Yeaaaaaaa…it’s my birthday in 12 days. Enjoy this beautiful month and Merry Christmas and a happy new year in advance. 

ROMANTIC MOVIES-godly/ungodly? — November 21, 2017

ROMANTIC MOVIES-godly/ungodly?

This topic…hmmm. Recently, the Holy Spirit taught me some things on this topic and I’ll b sharing it with you. 

Straight to today’s topic but kindly note that this isn’t a debate. I know you might be like, I don’t see anything wrong with watching romantic movies or listening to romantic songs anyway let’s see about that.

1.When you watch a romantic movie, read a romantic novel or listen to a romantic song, what comes to your mind? Of course romantic stuffs and guess what? sex! The more you watch/listen/read romantic stuffs, the more you desire romance and sex but that’s not all that happens.

2.When you watch/listen to/ read romantic stuffs and by stuffs, as said earlier means movies, songs, books, you begin to get this notion in your subconscious that romance or sex is not bad. After a while you don’t see it as anything bad. The Bible in Revelation says sex is a serious matter.

3.It is not until you do the act that you sin against God. You sin against God just even by watching/listening to/ reading it. How do I know? Let’s look at what the scripture says in Romans chapter 1 verse 29-32.

  • Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness,   maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, (29)
     Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,(30)
  • Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:(31)
  • Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.(32)

Verse 32 tells us that not only those who do them are worthy of death but likewise those who take pleasure in them that do them. When watching these movies, etc, you take pleasure at what they do and this is equal to you doing it.

4. You begin to develop impure sexual thoughts. There have been cases of rape where the rape victim was always decently dressed but you see, at times you begin to think of all the immoral scenes and the devil being smart, could create an opportunity for you to bring your wild imagination and thought to reality.

5. We often are not truly refreshed. Someone said: “I used to spend a couple hours every night after work watching sitcoms and other TV shows, thinking I needed to relax and unwind. But I discovered that when I was done watching, I wasn’t truly relaxed, closer to my wife and children, or nearer to God. Instead, I felt like I was mildly drugged.” During the holidays especially, we feel we need to relax and watch as much movie as possible but these romantic movies don’t relax us at the end. We begin to fantasize all sort of things including sex.

6. The bible says whoever looks at a woman lustfully has committed fornication in his heart. “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.“Matthew 5:28 (NIV). Romantic movies could make you lust after a woman right after watching it or thereafter and this is equal to fornication.

7. As a man you have the tendency to be an infidel in marriage. By infidel i mean an unfaithful spouse (sexually). People commit fornication/adultery not because they don’t love God, and their partner (if married) but because of all these things behind the scene. David probably wouldn’t have committed adultery with Beersheba if he hadn’t seen her bathe naked. 

8. SEX  becomes your weakness and therefore your strongest temptation from the devil. Let’s not even begin to talk about what sex before marriage can do to you.

9. We learn lessons that rarely work out in real life.

If you watch TV sitcoms, movies, or pornography, you may internalize a false picture of human relationships. For example, if you watch soap operas, you may become upset because your spouse does not seem as romantic or sexy as the actors and actresses.10. We can become materialistic.

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Hurricane Maria and Precious — November 20, 2017

Hurricane Maria and Precious

Hurricane Maria? Yes. Hurricane Precious? lol, there’s nothing like that.

Forgive my manners. Hi guys! It’s been long since I last posted on my blog. Well, somethings did happen that took me offline for a while and that’s what I’ll be feeding you on right now. Ready? Let’s get started.

Errmmm, before we get started let me put this down. Do FEEL FREE to drop your comments, like and share. Thank you.

It all started on the 17th of September with Dominica on a storm watch slated to happen on Monday, 18th September 2017. If you are current with world news, you’ll know this wasn’t far from the period Hurricane Harvey and Irma hit Florida and Houston. Dominica was also expected to get hit by Hurricane Harvey but oh boy was God merciful.πŸ˜₯

Take a look at the image I got via whatsapp.

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Was I scared? Well, I wasn’t really scared especially since Dominica was spared from Hurricane Harvey. So I thought same thing was going to happen. We prayed hard in Church about it and after service, my friends and I also took taking pictures hard, lol. Who knows what would be left of the Island after the storm but truthfully speaking, that’s not why we took pictures.

Check out for more pictures on my Instagram page @ayorindeprecious and kindly do well to follow me and follow my second page @denikemotivates too.πŸ˜€

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MONDAY finally came and I was indecisive about where to stay for the storm. Should I stay in my house or go to a friend’s place? So I thought. After all I went to a friend’s place awaiting Hurricane Harvey and it didn’t come. I felt unease staying at home so when I finally decided to go (lack of peace is most times God speaking) I called a friend living nearby and started packing few things. I lived alone so it was better to go to a friend’s place wasn’t it? By then I had been told the hurricane was intensifying and increasing in miles and was already at a category four. Wawu! warris dis? I cannot come and die o. That was how i hurriedly packed my things, hoping to leave before it got dark.

By the time I was done cooking (oh i didn’t tell you that my friend’s cooking gas had finished so I had to cook some food to take along), the light had gone as they said  and it had started raining. So I had to stay back home and alone.

I have a good friend by the name Stephen Akintunjoye. If you don’t know him and you don’t listen to his gospel music 🎡🎼🎹🎀@Rehlar, sorry ooo..lol. Errmm..why did I even mention his name? Anyway, let’s continue.

He, Stephen a.k.a Rehlar later called me to give me more info about the storm. I was told it was going to start by 8pm. Guess what? It started exactly at 8pm. I had closed all windows, locked my door well, ensured my Dominica neighbors were home and prayed. The wind became strong and the rain was very heavy. I had to hurriedly leave the parlor to my room. I made sure I carried my bag which I had packed down earlier on. I heard sounds of things clashing and the down pour was so heavy.

All of a sudden I heard my neighbors screaming for help. I became terrified. What could be going on with them? Why the scream for help? I went back to the parlor hoping to find out by peeping through the window. As I got to the parlor, I saw muddy water sipping in. I forgot to say that I went to the toilet before the scream for help and saw that my bath tub was getting filled with muddy water. How right?

I got more frightened. The wind had a very strange and scary sound. Many said it sounded like it was talking. Of a true, the sound of the wind was more terrifying than the effect of the storm on the Country that night.πŸ˜€πŸ˜’πŸ˜‘πŸ˜±πŸ˜±πŸ˜¬πŸ˜°πŸ’¨πŸ’¨β›…

I ran back to my room, continued playing some cool gospel music on my phone when I noticed that my room was leaking so immediately I put some bowls underneath it. Then I went back to bed with my bag on the bed.

Now here is the main thing.

Suddenly! I heard a strong sound like whoop…guess what? It was water. Water along with log of woods and other things entered my room. It broke my room door, turned my bed, and bent my wardrobe (my wardrobe almost fell). At that moment, I thought it was going to break through the walls of my room and carry me into the sea. lol. It sounds funny now but it wasn’t funny then. I started crying for help. My survival instinct told me to break through one of the windows of my room in other to escape. So I began breaking through the glass window with my bare hands. I didn’t feel any pain while in the process. I just wanted to land onto a safe side but oh boy was I wrong, outside was flooded and deadly. The wind could actually carry me so I sat back inside.

I started screaming the name of Jesus. I began the prayer of mercy. At some point my mind started imagining life after death. Ah! no…O Lord I cannot die. I prayed more earnestly hoping God would be merciful towards me. I also prayed for my friends, Church members and hoped someone else was also praying for me.

I asked God to stop my room from leaking because my room was already flooded to  my bed level and I didn’t want to die of flooding. The Lord answered and my room stopped leaking. I also asked God to give me peace in the midst of the storm since I couldn’t stop the storm and the Lord did.

By 1am, the wind was beginning to calm down. I slept for a while although i was waking up constantly. By 2am, my neighbours had told two samaritans, a man and a lady that I was in my room because these people were already going from house to house to help people. They broke the rest of the window carefully and brought me out then I went to my neighbour’s house upstairs.  Their roof had gone but a portion of the house was spared.

This whole experience has taught me so many things. You don’t have to wait to experience somethings before being nice or helpful to those that go through it. When you hear of people who lose their homes or need relief in Countries prone to natural disasters, what do you do? Ignore? hmmm.

Well….check these out. I acted according to the Holyspirit’s instruction to take these pictures. No one would want to take picture in that situation. Well, except me.lol.😏

 

So guys I hope you enjoyed reading my experience. Please do drop your comment. Let me know if you’ve experienced any natural disaster before and feel free to share your ordeal with us too.

Hey! Don’t forget to share. Thank you. I love you..muaah.πŸ˜„πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜

Thank you for saving us.. thank You my Lord..singing πŸ˜†πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ·πŸŽ·πŸŽ§

 

— July 19, 2017

Hi guys,

Today I’ll be sharing with you some tips on how to know God’s will by Minister Nathaniel Bassey. Incase you don’t know Minister Nathaniel Bassey, I’ll quickly give a short biography of him. 

Minister Nathaniel Bassey is a gospel musician and has produced a lot of gospel music that have birthed testimonies in the lives of people. He is the minister who sang the very popular song, “Imela”. He is also the minister God used to carry out a 30 hours midnight praise for 30 days in June on Instagram and Facebook titled The Hallelujah Challenge a.k.a Olowogbogboro (the outstretched arm of God). 

Prior to that, there was another challenge done in the the month of May titled The Tongues Challenge also for 30 hours in 30 days. Unlike the tongues challenge, the hallelujah challenge attracted more people all over the world including Nigeria celebrities. This birthed many jaw dropping testimonies all to the glory of God. 

He has a beautiful family which includes his wife and two children. He is an epitome of God’s grace and right Christian living. He has been on Instagram live session twice to talk on how he met with his wife with the aim of letting people know how to recognise God’s will from man’s will.

 Now let’s get to the tips;

1. One way to bypass an emotion is by praying in the spirit; Praying in the Holyspirit helps us pray within the will of God. 

 Romans 8:26-27: And in the same wayβ€”by our faithβ€”the Holy Spirit helps us with our daily problems and in our praying. For we don’t even know what we should pray for nor how to pray as we should, but the Holy Spirit prays for us with such feeling that it cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows, of course, what the Spirit is saying as he pleads for us in harmony with God’s own will. (TLB)

2. Sow seeds: Sowing seeds cannot be over emphasized. In your marital life, also sow seeds. 

3. Wake up in the night, lock your room, get worship songs, and pray: Pray a lot and include fasting if possible.

4. Don’t have specification: Ensure you restrain yourself from having specific attribute you want your spouse to or not to have. E.g race/tribe, complexion, height, occupation,etc.

5. Look out for that quality that only him/her has and is a conviction from God.

6. Ask for confirmation in your heart: The devil can manipulate things therefore he can manipulate whatever you ask God for as a confirmation when you speak out. It’s just safer to pray in your heart in a situation like this. 

7. Any guy/lady that avoids seeing your pastor or parent is not serious. Run!

8. When you pray in the Sprit, you allow God’s will to override your will. 

9. Many times the favour you need to enter into your next level is connected to getting married.     

10. Make sure you already know the way God speaks to you before asking about a life partner.   

I hope this blessed you. You can follow Minister Nathaniel Bassey on IG @nathanielblow. 

Check out my blog for more relationship updates. Thanks for reading. Please feel free to drop your comment and share this post. 

 I love you..muaah…kissessssssss

Comparison- the mother of hatred — July 5, 2017

Comparison- the mother of hatred

Comparison is an evaluation of the similarities and differences of one or more things relative to some other or each other. Comparison has done more harm than good in the lives of people. It has birthed hatred,jealousy, feelings of inferiority, murdered destinies, killed passions, etc. 

In the Holy Scriptures, we see in 1 Samuel 16:21 that Saul once loved David but suddenly he was after his life because the people compared him to David according to 1 Samuel 18:6-9(NLT): 

6When the victorious Israelite army was returning home after David had killed the Philistine, women from all the towns of Israel came out to meet King Saul. They sang and danced for joy with tambourines and cymbals.a 7This was their song:

β€œSaul has killed his thousands,

and David his ten thousands!”

8This made Saul very angry. β€œWhat’s this?” he said. β€œThey credit David with ten thousands and me with only thousands. Next they’ll be making him their king!” 9So from that time on Saul kept a jealous eye on David.


This  truly  reveals  that  comparison  can do more harm than good. Do people compare you with other people? Are you in a relationship where your partner constantly compares you with his or her ex or anybody else despite having told him or her you don’t appreciate it? I believe it is time to review that relationship in the presence of God. If you are married, you have to pray and talk to your partner about it. Always inform people not to compare you with others when they do as this could unconsciously have negative effect on you. 

Perhaps you find yourself comparing your self,income, allowance, beauty, stature, Church, ministry, house, happiness, relationship, clothes,etc. with others, I advice you stop doing that. Always remember that you came to this world to fulfill a purpose which can never be the same with another person’s even if you are a twin. I believe whatever challenges you go through or wherever you are now has to do with your destiny, not anyone’s, so stop the comparison. 

Comparison is a trap of the devil, don’t fall into it. I have fallen into it’s ugly trap several times, ofcourse unconsciously and it took God to make me realise I had started to compare myself with others. Comparison is the reason so many commited suicide, dropped out of school, steal, borrow clothes to snap pictures, live fake lives, hate their parents, spouses, children, go from one Church to another, go into relationships they don’t need and so on.  

You are beautiful enough, your IQ level is enough, your stature is just so perfect for your purpose in life. Refuse to allow anyone compare you with another and also refuse to compare yourself with another. You are you, you can never be someone else. Love yourself while aspiring to be a better person. If you are going to compare yourself with another, that should be you. Compare yourself with only yourself while working on being a better you.

Thanks for reading, I hope it inspired you. I love you. Muaah πŸ˜πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

How to deal with regrets. — May 30, 2017

How to deal with regrets.

Hi guys! I hope you are doing great. I quickly want to share with you how to deal with regrets. Regrets could come in any form; regrets of your past, your present, things you didn’t do, mistakes and decisions you made, etc. 

Regret is one thing that can hinder us from having a bright tomorrow.Lot’s wife in the Bible looked back despite the warning not to look back hence, she became a pillar of salt (I heard people say that’s how salt came about but I am yet to confirm that, lol). We can term regret as looking back although the dictionary says; 

 To feel sorry about (a thing that has or has not happened), afterthink: to wish that a thing had not happened, that something else had happened instead.

Here are some tips to help you deal with regrets;

1. Accept your past: Oh yea, that’s kind of hard but very possible. You have to realise what has happened has happened and you cannot go back to your past (except in movies,lol).

2. Realise everyone has a past: Yes! Everyone has atleast one thing that they regret about their past. Stop comparing yourself with other people, no one is perfect, all humans make mistakes.

3. Learn from your past: No matter how hurtful your past is, there is always something to learn from it. Learn from your past, if possible, teach people lessons learnt, I believe you’ll feel better that way. 

4. Stop looking back: Now that you’ve accepted your past as your past irrespective of how painful or regretful it is, you need to stop thinking about it. It’s normal to see things that remind you of your past but you have the choice to reject that sad wishful thinking of “only if”.You may become as the frozen pillar of salt (feelings of self hatred,depression, anger, unhappiness,etc) anytime you look back at your past and wish somethings didn’t happen. Nothing good happens when we look at our hurtful past.

5. Look forward: This is the part I love, looking forward. Look forward to your future, your tomorrow, believing you won’t make those mistakes again. There are so many beautiful things ahead of you. I’m really glad to announce to you that your best is yet to come.

6. Be thankful: Be thankful of the path you took to becoming who you are now. It could have been rough but it has created a better you. Remember you are able to think about your past because you’re alive,that’s enough reason to be grateful. Your past only happened to make you stronger.

7. Always put the lessons learnt into practice

I hope this post has been helpful and you feel better now. Please do feel free to drop your comments, I’ll love to learn from you.
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